When we moved back to New York from Massachusetts in 2006, we had
a lot going on. Wil and I were each
starting new jobs, we were trying to sell our condo in Massachusetts, and we’d
just been victims of a “bait and switch” situation on renting an apartment in
Manhattan. Olivia was 13 months old, and
I was learning the hard way that living expenses in NY were triple that of
Massachusetts, though neither Wil’s nor my new salaries had even doubled. To put it mildly, things were a tad
stressful.
One of the many advantages I found to life in Manhattan was the
abundance of take out: Ethiopian, barbeque, diners on every corner. We even had a store near us that sold Chinese
AND Mexican together. At the time I was already
overweight, and I quickly learned that I ate a lot when I was stressed. We had moved from a 3 bedroom 1400-square
foot duplex condo to a 550 square foot studio that had creatively been altered
into a 2 bedroom (don’t ask). The
kitchen was smaller than most closets; I was thrilled to be able to create
dinner using only a telephone and a $20 bill.
I didn’t care if the food was healthy.
I was still cooking for Olivia so she ate well; Wil and I ordered pretty
much anything we felt like, and I managed to go plate for plate with my 6’4”
husband.
About a month after we moved to New York, Wil complained one day
that his side was hurting. Within 24
hours, his burst appendix launched a two week stint in the hospital, leaving me
to be a single parent in a city where I had no friends, with a very ill husband
to add to my list of concerns. Every
night, my mom came over to my apartment right around Olivia’s bedtime, so I
could visit Wil in the hospital for a bit.
I’d walk home and pick up dinner on the way home. To keep things interesting, I’d get dinner
from a different take out place each night: burgers and shakes, several slices
of pizza, egg rolls and nachos from the “Chex Mex” place as we liked to call
it.
Wil eventually healed and came home, and I continued to eat like
the world was going to run out of food and I needed to first consume my fair
share. I eventually got to my low point,
my “fat point”, where I decided enough was enough, and joined Weight Watchers.
Let’s fast forward four years.
I’ve lost 70 pounds and become a triathlete. I work out daily, eat well, and have taught
my kids what’s healthy and what isn’t. A
lot has changed. And at the same time, a
lot hasn’t.
Over the last 6 years, Wil and I traded in our 550 square foot
apartment in Manhattan for a lovely house in Westchester. We grew a second kid, and Weight Watchers
refers to success stories like me as a “Lifetime Member at Goal”. And – I still eat when I’m stressed.
Recently, Wil and I started renovations on the kitchen in our
lovely house in Westchester. The entire
kitchen has been completely gutted: my refrigerator is currently plugged in in
the living room, and my old decrepit stove has been relegated to the front porch
where it awaits its predecessor. This
makes cooking difficult, and has temporarily turned my life completely upside
down. Wil and I really didn’t think
through what renovations would entail, so we weren’t quite prepared to not even
be able to get water for the cat bowls in the kitchen. So, for days now we’ve had to either order in
dinner every night, or go out. In doing
so, I’ve learned a few things: 1) portions in restaurants are obscenely large,
and 2) my town has a limited vocabulary when it comes to words like “whole
grains”, and “salad”.
Given that healthy choices are sparse and portions are abundant, I
have to admit that I’ve given in to my old habits of eating to relieve stress. In the past week, I’ve enjoyed pizza, Pad
Thai, even ice cream for dinner one night.
The night we went out for Mexican and I sighed when I didn’t see fried
Chinese dumplings on the menu to go with my nachos, I knew I was out of
control. I also realized that I had the
option of restoring control or letting things continue down the slippery slope
lined with ice cream and pudding that would eventually deposit me into a pool
of my own fat.
For now, I’m fixing the little things. Dinner tonight will consist of butternut
squash soup that I can heat up in the microwave that’s sitting in my living
room. Tomorrow at work I’ll be sure to
have a salad for lunch and stock up on fruit from the corner vendors. By Wednesday, my contractor will have my
kitchen functioning if not finished, and I’ll either be able to cook a healthy
meal for myself, or I’ll at least burn enough calories chasing him down by foot
and then finally killing him with my bare hands that it will be fine if I
splurge a little bit and have a slice of pizza for dinner.
My kitchen renovations have taught me a lot: 1) any big job takes
twice as long and costs twice as much as you expect, and 2) getting control of
weight and exercise doesn’t necessarily mean that a person has gained control
of old habits. But, I know how to eat
well, and run a marathon. Now I just
need to work on using those tools to deal with my stress, rather than giving in
to the Chex-Mex restaurant.
Great post! I can definitely relate. I am healthier than I was at my "fat" weight, but when stressed a lot of those old habits come out from hiding. It's a constant battle!
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